She Came to Me – Review

In the realm of cinematic storytelling, few filmmakers can navigate the fine line between the fantastical and the believable with the finesse of Rebecca Miller. Her latest directorial venture, “She Came to Me,” is a testament to this unique ability. The film could easily have ventured into the realms of farce or tragedy, yet Miller masterfully maintains a delicate balance, presenting a narrative imbued with both levity and depth.

The movie’s ability to defy predictability may unsettle some viewers accustomed to conventional storytelling. However, for those seeking originality, this unpredictability is the film’s most charming quality. Miller’s craft was previously displayed in “Maggie’s Plan,” where we saw characters navigate the convoluted realms of love and reality. With “She Came to Me,” she revisits these themes but delves deeper into the complexities of relationships and the idiosyncrasies of individuals entranced by the notion of love, yet clumsily grappling with its practical implications. The film fittingly opens with an aria from Carmen, underscoring the rebellious nature of love—a recurring theme throughout the narrative.

Peter Dinklage delivers a stunning performance as Steven, the imperious yet fragile opera composer battling a creative drought. His portrayal is nuanced, capturing the essence of a man caught between his past success and the pressures of the present. Anne Hathaway complements Dinklage’s Steven with her portrayal of Patricia, a therapist whose life is as orderly as the stark black and white attire she dons—a façade of composure that barely conceals the simmering emotions beneath. Their interactions, particularly a scene involving a dust buster and an impromptu musical interlude, are telling of the film’s whimsical charm.

The narrative introduces a counterpoint family, led by the undocumented immigrant Magdalena (Joanna Kulig), whose life intersects with Steven and Patricia through her role as their cleaner. Her relationship with her domestic partner Trey (Brian d’Arcy James) and the dynamic with their daughter Tereza (Harlow Jane) reflects and contrasts with Patricia’s family. Both families are grappling with the challenges of substitute fatherhood and the aspirations they hold for their children.

The film explores the parallel lives of the two families, delving into themes of regret, ambition, and the pursuit of dreams. A pivotal moment comes when Magdalena discovers a secret that ties the two families closer together, igniting fears born from her own life experiences.

A turning point in the film arrives when Patricia, frustrated with Steven’s stagnation, sends him on a walk with their dog. This walk leads Steven to Katrina (Marisa Tomei), a tugboat captain whose vibrant wardrobe reflects her colorful approach to life. Their unexpected encounter spurs a creative breakthrough for Steven, resulting in an opera that’s as unconventional as the film itself—a narrative about a murderous tugboat captain that, improbably, becomes a resounding success.

The film’s conclusion brings a convergence of conflicts and loyalties, particularly between the younger generation and their parents. Miller’s treatment of the teenagers in the film is particularly notable, as she affords them a degree of respect and agency often lacking in adult-centric narratives. The end result is a film that embraces the messiness of life, the simplicity of genuine emotion, and the beauty of taking risks when faced with life’s complexities.

“She Came to Me” is more than just a film—it’s a celebration of life’s unpredictability and the myriad ways in which love manifests. It’s an invitation to audiences to embrace the unexpected with open arms and an open heart. Now showing in theaters, this film is a must-watch for those who appreciate cinema that dares to challenge the norm and captivate with its charm and authenticity.

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